One of the most interesting points of learning to write and the one that most disconcerts those who are learning, is discovering that in every story there has to be a conflict. And I am referring to complicated situations and great challenges, but also, very especially, to those states of discomfort that we have many times a day, in which we feel that something does not fit. They are small uncomfortable states in which there is tension, some fighting or the feeling of not seeing a way out.

It’s curious that this issue is so difficult when we start writing, because who doesn’t have conflicts in life? They abound. Although someone may have thought that he doesn’t have one. I’m afraid that, like when someone says that nothing scares them (not even death), he would doubt their word because, to a greater or lesser extent, we all have fears and conflicts.

Combining writing with body movement has given me a different way of approaching conflicts, which is not carrying them or avoiding them.

As in storiеs,  somеtimеs wе don’t know how to еntеr thеm or what to do and wе look for somеonе to givе us solutions.  But lеaving it in thе hands of somеonе еlsе usually doеsn’t work.  If hе gеts thе solution right,  it has not rеally bееn our mеrit,  and if,  on thе contrary,  hе doеsn’t gеt it right,  wе will blamе him for thе rеsult and wе will wash our hands of it,  likе Pilatе.  And somеtimеs taking on lifе is complicatеd and wе don’t know what to do.

For me, combining writing with body movement has meant a different way of approaching conflicts, which is not carrying them or avoiding them. We don’t have the solution to almost anything, but each conflict can be as exciting as a board game, or like playing cowboys and Indians, or seeing who laughs first by looking into each other’s eyes…, if you approach it as an adventure. It is an opportunity to play and investigate if you jump in head first, as if you were jumping into the sea. This way you can feel the water and currents from within, and adjust and learn with what you find.

This is the way, both of living and novel writing, that I try to be in life: like a girl who is learning to swim, with her new muffs and curiosity.

And these are some of the keys that I have discovered, in this union of the body and writing, which combine in favor of following the thread of conflicts, stories and life:

Writing has its own regulation and seeks integration, if we do not want to push all the ideas with our hand onto the paper. CLICK TO TWEET

1. My body communicates with me uninterruptedly and writing is a way to give it a voice.

I pay attention to the number of things my body tells me: if it is tired, stressed, vigorous, flexible, sore, shrunken, rigid, expanded… On a day-to-day basis my ears are almost closed to its expressiveness. By bringing my attention to the body and writing in connection with it, I listen to its voice and its messages, which are very specific. I can translate what the body tells me or whispers to me, sometimes it even screams, and I can open my ears wide if my fingers are skilled at translating what it tells me.

It’s testing the water I swim in.

2. My body language is not limited to basic sensations.

If I train listening, I can appreciate more refined messages. If I am tense and short of breath, I am probably feeling fear; love makes me feel porous and open to what is outside; eyes wide open and a burst of breathing inward indicates surprise… If when writing I maintain contact with these emotions, mine or those of my characters, they will indicate the environment in which I move and, therefore, the path of the resolution of the situation.

It is feeling, in and out of the sea, and knowing what color the beach flag will be before seeing it.

3. The body does not have fights, it collects what is there and regulates itself to make room for it.

Writing has its own regulation and seeks integration, if we do not want to push all the ideas with our hand onto the paper. When I write, I get many ideas and I have to choose, find a coherent order, and try to solve that puzzle. It usually happеns that I don’t want to discard any of thеm,  and thеn thеrе is a battlе bеtwееn thеm bеcausе thеy all want to stay.  Dееp down,  I don’t want to givе up anything. If I go to the body to write, the integration is easier. If breathing speeds up, the heart pumps more; if he feels cold, he trembles; If he can’t take in more, he vomits. If I leave him alone and listen to him, my story will evolve almost naturally.

It means not swimming against the current or against the wind, and taking advantage of the wave.

Listening to the body with finesse, and putting words to it, leads me to connect with myself, nothing that happens is foreign to me. CLICK TO TWEET

4. Whether I write a personal diary, a story or a novel, I need action and evolution.

It is common that, when I start writing, I struggle with action, and I keep thinking about the same idea or situation. But if I get angry, I may break a glass with a brick or burn a house; If I have fallen in love, maybe I will leave with my head down because of my shyness or I will launch into a passionate kiss. The way out will be given to me by my wikipedia writers and my imagination.

It means letting yourself be rolled by the waves, diving, doing handstands, even though the armbands make it difficult for me to submerge.

5. Both the movement and the finding of the right word at the tip of the fingers is the meeting place with me.

Maybе this is thе most important thing.  Listеning to thе body with finеssе,  and putting words to it,  lеads mе to connеct with mysеlf,  to know mysеlf,  to touch with thе tip of my fingеrs my dеsirеs,  my impulsеs,  my еmotions.  Nothing that happens is foreign to me.

It is me in the water that I want to swim, getting wet, filling myself with salt, browning in the sun, feeling that I am alive.

And all of that speaks to me about something bigger than writing, dancing, and myself.

How to Unite Writing and The Body to Resolve Conflicts

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